This is a pattern of Mom ' s days — one that you may find familiar. “It was go-go-go. Mornings were spent yelling at the kids to get out the door, then there was the chaos of work, kids’ activities, homework, and hurrying here and there.”
Me too, my day has been like this. That 's time I need to make a change on my daily habit of getting up early to find my ME time - doing yoga and starting meditation to clam the craziness and overworking of days.
And I realized something had changed. '' My mind is clearer, I am not rushing. I’m not yelling. I’m calm and more patience with my kids and chaos around''
Meditation can help you a better parent
More Compassion
Compassion is crucial as a mom who wants to make lasting connections with her kids. Even if you’re tired and don’t want to listen to any more crying, you often need compassion just to get through it.
You’ll also experience greater self-compassion, which can be hugely relieving. You can stop worrying about messing up your kids and stop dwelling on mistakes. Forgiving yourself and moving forward is one of the most important steps to being a better parent, and meditation can help you get there.
Greater Happiness
Meditation helps you tune in with what makes you truly happy. You can let the stresses and anxiety of parenting melt away while you focus on your personal needs and wants. Oftentimes, those are in line with what your kids need and want. Meditating can help you to live in the moment, giving you more joy while your kids are still around.
Stronger Problem-Solving Skills
You solve problems every single day—or, at least you attempt to solve them. Sometimes, you don’t always know the best way to handle a situation, but it’s much easier if you let yourself sit back and think without interruption. When you tune out electronics, kids, and other daily distractions for just five minutes, you can more clearly see the solution to any given problem.
Added Patience
Patience is one of the biggest benefits of meditating. Most people who practice meditation regularly report developed patience.
Patience is often the key to great parenting. You might not feel like listening closely as your kids complain, or you might feel like flying off the handle when they’ve ignored your instructions for the umpteenth time, but patience helps you reign it in. It’s your answer to many problems, and meditation can help you get there.
A busy Mum won’t have the time
I agree. But I am a busy mum too! Therefore I would like to share a few tips on how I meditate which you can easily fit in your tight schedule.
Start with only 5 minutes of meditation.
Do it either first thing in the morning before kids wake up or last thing in the night before you go to sleep or during kids nap. You will need peace and quiet to meditate.
If you do it for 40 days in a row, it will become a habit (a good one!).
You are doing this for yourself, not for your kids or your spouse/partner.
Where there is a will there is a way, find a time most suitable for you.
How to meditate
Wear comfortable clothes, set an intention or affirmation for yourself today startiing with I AM or I WANT like: I AM CALM , I AM ENOUGH ; I AM LOVED ; I AM GRATEFUL
Choose a place where you would like to meditate every day. It is better to meditate on the same spot every day. You do not need any meditation cushions or pillows. Either sit crossed legged or sit with your legs stretched out. Keep your back straight. Either leave your hands on our knees or clasp your hands together as if in prayer.
Close your eyes and breathe deeply and slowly. Thoughts will come and go – it is normal. Try not to move. Make sure you are alone in the room and undisturbed. With your eyes closed, affirm your desired result by saying, I choose [Insert your desired result here].
Tips: I always set a timer on my phone before starting it so I don’t have to keep opening my eyes to know what the time is. Do not open your eyes until the timer goes off. Do not disturb the process of meditation.
If you are comfortable with 5 minutes, increase the duration as much as you would like to. Meditation of 20 minutes is ideal
Another tips:
All you need is to put aside a few minutes to sit quietly, or go for a walk and focus on your breathing. Or you could do a few yoga poses in the morning, listen to a guided meditation during your lunch hour from my Youtube Chanel or have a meditation CD in the car for times when you’re early for school pickup.
Meditation on few moments
Just Breathe
Meditation doesn’t always mean sitting cross legged with your hands on your knees. Sometimes, you only have to breathe to get the same effect. When you’re about to lose it, take 10 slow breaths. You’ll be amazed at the power of breathing deeply.
Go to Your Happy Place
Another tactic for handling difficult situations is to imagine yourself in a place that makes you feel calm and happy. Instead of getting angry, go to this happy place. Like breathing deeply, this mindful interaction will save you from making a parenting mistake you might regret later.
The benefits of meditation are felt most when you practise daily, but find time whenever you can. “Even taking five deep breaths at a stoplight is a way to bring a meditation practice into your day,” Pancer says.
Meditation isn’t a cure-all, but it’s an excellent parenting aid when times get tough. It helps you focus on what’s truly important and gets you through difficult challenges
Give it a try and let know how it went via comment box. I would love to hear from you. Your comment will also give encouragement to other mothers visiting my blog!. Or join my FB community to receive daily tips and tricks yoga and meditation: https://www.facebook.com/groups/167018991957359
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